As you embark on, or continue, your journey into the professional world, there’s something we need to talk about: confidence. You have the education, the skills, and the passion, but often, that little voice inside your head might whisper, “Do I really have what it takes?” It’s time to address that and discover how to own your confidence and thrive in your career.

The Confidence Conundrum: We’ve All Been There

Picture this: You’ve just landed a job, and you’re eager to make your mark. But as you sit in meetings or tackle new projects, you hesitate. You’re afraid you’ll say something that makes you sound inexperienced, right? Well, here’s a secret: you’re not alone. Even seasoned professionals have faced this.

Confidence vs. Competence: A Surprising Gap

Here’s an interesting tidbit: research shows that women, in particular, tend to underestimate their abilities compared to their male peers. But guess what? When it comes to doing the job, you’re just as competent. In fact, in crucial areas like taking initiative, driving results, demonstrating bold leadership, and building relationships, women often outperform their male colleagues.

The Age of Confidence: A Surprising Twist

It might surprise you to learn that this confidence gap tends to persist until around the age of 40. As a 40-something, I (Torah) can certainly attest to that! That’s when men’s and women’s confidence levels finally start to align. But wait, there’s more: once you hit 60, something fascinating happens – male confidence begins to decline while female confidence actually increases. So, there’s light at the end of the tunnel!

Beyond Gender: Unmasking Workplace Realities

Now, let’s look beyond gender. Experts like Catherine Tinsley and Robin Ely have delved into this issue extensively. Their research points to workplace structures and unconscious biases as the real culprits hindering women’s progress. Often, women hesitate to speak up because they fear their ideas are scrutinized more than their male counterparts’.

Boosting Your Confidence: Four Actionable Tips

Enough with the challenges; let’s talk solutions. As you set foot in the professional world, consider these four strategies to boost your confidence and own your career:

1. 1. Be Your Own Cheerleader
      We all have that inner critic – the voice that constantly points out our mistakes and doubts our abilities. But guess what? You can also cultivate an inner cheerleader! Celebrate your accomplishments and the hurdles you’ve overcome. Remind yourself that you have a unique contribution to make – don’t hold back!
      
      
   2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
      Building confidence often means taking risks. Challenge yourself to have those tough conversations, engage with senior leadership, and express your opinions boldly in meetings. As you face your fears head-on, you’ll expand your view of your own capabilities, leading to increased confidence.
      
      
   3. Embrace Imperfection
      You know those underqualified and underprepared men who never hesitate to dive in? Well, it’s time to take a page from their book. You don’t have to be perfect; you just have to be you. Give yourself permission to be “good enough.” The more you let go of perfectionism, the more mental space you free up for strategic contributions.
      
      
   4. Align with Your Values
      Finally, clarity about your core values can be a powerful motivator. What truly matters to you? What drives your passion? One of our clients, for example, found her confidence by aligning with her desire to be a role model for her daughter. Connecting with your values can provide the courage to pursue your goals and boost your confidence as you see your efforts yield results.

Conclusion: Your Journey to Confidence Begins

In closing, remember that your confidence journey is a path of growth and discovery. You’re not alone in facing moments of doubt, but with these strategies in your toolkit, you’ll navigate your career with increasing confidence. As you embrace your value and unique contributions, you’ll not only thrive in your professional life but also contribute to the success of your organization. Welcome to the exciting world of post-college confidence!